I constantly thought about getting married and having children. I wasn’t sure when it would happen and I gotta tell ya, it took quite some time. So why don’t I tell you a little bit of my story finding love.

Let Me Give You Some Background

I grew up in a single-parent household. When I was 2, my parents got a divorce. I never saw a healthy or solid relationship or marriage between a man and a woman growing up. My mom did the best she could with the resources she had and honestly, she did amazing. I thank God for her and I wouldn’t be where I am today without her continuous love, prayers and support. I wanted a healthy marriage because I wanted to provide my future children with something different.

Fast forward to College. I didn’t know what a relationship looked like. I had never been in a relationship, never dated in high school; and so my first relationships were in college. I had a situationship where it just didn’t work out and then I met my first boyfriend. If you want to know more about that, you can read my book. You can find it on Amazon here (Purchase my book). For a long time, I was single. I had a situationship or two and learned a lot about myself.

Meeting my husband changed everything; I never expected to marry or be in another relationship after my previous one. While I was looking, I also wasn’t looking.

Finding Love in Dating Apps

As you know, dating apps are popular, so I joined a few. I think I used Bumble, Hinge, and BLK. I swiped left on many people for various reasons—either I found them unattractive or their profiles lacked sufficient information. In my mind, a person who wrote a little bit of something was worth talking to because that meant they were serious. They expressed a genuine interest in dating and being in a relationship. However, many on the platform sought only casual encounters, which did not align with my relationship goals.

I lost interest in the apps; nothing was happening, and I grew tired of being on them.

One day, I decided I was going to message a bunch of people I ended up matching. I sent the same message to every single one of them and it said, “Hey! How are you doing?”, just to see how people would respond if they would respond at all. My husband was the only person to respond to that message.

First In-Person Encounter

We sparked a conversation and turns out he knew two of the girls in one of my pictures on my profile, two of my close friends. He grew up with one and he went to school with the other. I decided to ask my friends more about him. They both hadn’t seen him for awhile, but spoke very highly of him. My friend’s birthday arrives, and we plan to go to the casino. She suggests, ‘You should call him and see if he’ll come.’

I FaceTimed him and asked him about his plans for the night. He was out with some friends downtown. I told him we were at the casino for my friends birthday and he should come. He literally dropped everything and came to the casino.That marked our first in-person meeting. He was so nice and kind and fit so well with my friends.

First Hangout

One day, I was leaving church, texting him. He asked about my plans, and I mentioned going to the grocery store for home supplies. I considered asking him to come but hesitated not to pressure. Surprisingly, his next message was, ‘Can I go with you?’ I was stunned, shocked that he expressed interest in joining me for grocery shopping.

He comes to my house and we get in the car. When we get to the store, he grabs the car and rolls it around as I’m getting all the stuff and putting the groceries in. We’re just talking and having a such a good time.

When we returned to my house, I expected him to leave, but instead, he assisted me in carrying all my groceries upstairs to my kitchen and helped me put them away. I’m thinking ‘Wow, this man is amazing’. So crazy how he wanted to spend time with me.

First Date

Eventually, he asked me out on our first date. I didn’t need no fancy date or anything like that but he planned a very special date for us. First, he took me to this ceramics store. We painted these different ceramic sculptures that I have to this day. He knew I loved doing things to express my creativity. I painted an elephant and he painted a bear with our favorite colors.

Afterwards he took me to Fogo de Chão. Neither one of us had ever been there so it was amazing to be able to experience it with him. While there talked about life and everything else. I invited him to join me at church, and he responded, ‘When I go with you, I’ll be there as your boyfriend. While walking to the car, he asked me to be his girlfriend, and I was taken aback since we had just discussed it. Of course I said yes and then we headed to my friends dad‘s show. He was playing saxophone at this lounge bar in the Pearl district.

Meeting My People

When we got to the show, literally all of my people were there – my mom, my pastors, my God mom, my friends. It was just amazing how he handled himself and everyone immediately loved him.

The next day, he showed up to church as my boyfriend and the rest is history. We have spent mostly every single day together since that day. It is very rare that we’re not together even having a daughter. We still enjoy each other’s company, just as much as we did when we first met  

The Moral of the Love Story

If you read my story in my book, Wait, When All Is Tested, and see where I’m at now, you will be shocked. It was five years span of time and I didn’t think I would ever be in this position. I didn’t think I’d ever be married. I didn’t think I’d ever be a mom, because as time went on, and as relationships didn’t work out, I felt like it was just never going to happen for me.

And I prayed a lot. I trusted God a lot but eventually I just decided to quit talking about it and when I quit talking about it, that’s when God showed up for me the most in the most special way ever.

I am completely in love with my husband and would not trade him for nothing. He is so amazing, and I am so grateful for God, putting him in my life. We might have come into contact in many different ways in many different occasions, but it was that occasion that put us together for life. I am so grateful.

The moral of the story is, if you’re single, find you a man that will take time out of his day to go to the grocery store with you!